It’s been almost a week since miya and I decided to go vegetarian, for the most part we have been recovering from our tongue piercings so somewhat restricted in the kind of food we can consume anyway (noodles and soup!). So far the only bad experience on our new diet was a packet of TVP based chilli *shudder*.
Today we had the tongue barbell replaced with a shorter one (wow! I can talk and eat again!) and went for a celebratory Subway. OMG! A Veggie DeLite with everything on was simply the most amazing sandwich I have ever tasted! Even simple salad veg that only a week ago I would have refused as being yukky are now amazingly juicy and flavorful.
Fair to say we went vegetarian for one reason and will stay vegetarian for another - It’s YUMMY!!
Selling items on eBay and accepting payment by PayPal (owned by eBay) is something I am not doing anymore. It is far to easy for the buyers to claim the items purchased are not as described well after having recieved them, start a dispute with paypal which ends in a refund. If lucky, you get your previously good condition items returned fit for the bin.
The process goes something like this. Win auction, pay via paypal from a credit card, wait till you get your goods. Once you’re happy you have something worth stealing, file a “significantly not as described” claim with paypal. Wait a bit. Kerching! Keep goods, keep money, laugh.
It’s hedged in favor of the buyer. We all know PayPal are difficult to contact at the best of time, during a dispute process its simply laughable. If you’re not talking to the other party you can only send information to PayPal via FAX !! How awesome is that !!
To be honest, I’m gutted. The item in question was something I never wanted to sell, but had no choice. My Sofa - The Thief
UPDATE : Following my last message to the buyer in which I stated the the item was ‘inspected’ and ‘collected’ in person. PayPal have ‘deferred’ on this case. In other words they don’t want to get involved and make a decision they will be held to later. I now await the credit card chargeback that PayPal will immediately pass on to me.
You’ve been with me everyday for ever, I love you, I can’t take you with me, I wish I could. I’m sorry boy.
Weeeee!!!! After a POINTLESS interview the other day I have finally recieved my passport!! The UK passport office deserves a huge thumbs up! Simply of the basis of having already changed my name by deed poll, they requested a letter from my GP as to the status of my gender change. The letter from my GP (took him an age to write) simply stated that yes I intended to stay in my chosen gender and that I hadn’t has surgery yet, but that it was likely to happen.
Result! My passport has a F on it, I’m the happiest girl alive right now :D
We leave for the US on the 28th of April, I’m so excited!! Just have to focus on all the stuff I have to do before I go …. If you want to buy a 3 month old HUGE red leather corner sofa *grins*
The TG Lounge group is now 200 members strong, its awesome to see the group growing and going from strength to strength! Many thanks to everyone who has helped us make the lounge the huge success it is! Of course that’s the perfect excuse for a party - stay tuned :)
The TG Lounge and the TRC have been working very hard to bury the old conflicts and allow both groups to move forward in their distinctly separate missions, huge hugs go out to Jani who’s dedication and diplomacy have made this possible.
Finally, I would like to thank Ashley Lynch from the bottom of my heart. She came by the TG Lounge the other night to apologise to every one for the upset her blog post caused, I know that this will go a long way to repair hurt feelings between the TG Lounge and the TRC. I am proud to call her my friend. I would like to take this opportunity to apologise for my share of the anguish the TG community have suffered during the split, and to thanks everyone who has worked so very hard to build bridges.
Following on from news of my redundancy a few days ago, I got home from work feeling more than a little depressed. I had emailed the news home as soon as I knew it and spent the rest of the day worrying about the short term future, how to survive on what I would have as an income is something that filled me with dread. It’s been tight at the best of times balancing my income, credit card debts, rent, taxes, bills and food.
We (myself, miya and Sarah) had always planned to go to the US in mid to late June (at the end of their allowed tourist stay in the UK). The plan was to have all the required paper work in place so that I could change my status in the US and remain there to stay. So it was with some surprise that I was greeted with smiles and optomism when I arrived home after work. Upon hearing of my redundancy they had been busy working out a solution.
We’re leaving for the US at the end of April, I will stay there for 3 months on the visa waiver program (basically tourist, with no option to change status on that trip). By the end of the 3 months we hope to be settled somewhere in Washington (state, not capitol) and I will return to the UK in time for my daughters birthday. During that time we hope to have everything sorted out so that on my return to the US at the end of August I can enter the country on a visa that will allow me to stay.
I’ve given notice on my rented property and am working to offload everything I can’t take with me, which is pretty much everything!
In future I will try harder to work past my problems, try harder to treat adversity as a challenge and try harder not to slip into self defeating depression. Its not easy, especially while trying to get my mind back together after two years on anti-depressants, but I’m getting there with the help of my friends and new family.
Thank you all so much for showing me that even on the worst days there is always hope.
I’ve been made redundant (lost my job). Basically the company that I helped start, worked for months without pay to get going and have doggedly stuck with the last four years is fucked. Without downsizing the amount of space it rents and sacking 2 people it wont survive. The business has gone from employing 8 people late last year to 3 that will remain.
I kinda expected it as soon as the boss sat us all down for a meeting. Feel like I’m going to throw up.
Tonight in SL is the one year memorial service for Kelise Hailey, she was a young transsexual woman who’s struggle became to much for her to bare. She committed suicide. She was my friend.
I owe my own life to Kelise. When she left us I was in a very dark place, torn between this world and something else. Losing her fixed my resolve to stay for good. No matter how low and depressed I feel, no matter what happens in my life. I made her a silent promise and I will keep it. I keep a candle lit for her in SL to remind me that no matter what happens, no matter how dark the days might seem for me or anyone else. You’re never truly alone.
When I’m quiet and alone my thoughts often drift to her, a year on and I still can’t hold back the tears. I miss you Kelise.
I’m deeply saddened by the news today that Arthur C Clarke has died age 90. Visionary just doesn’t quite do his contribution to our lives justice. His works never failed to inspire my imagination. It feels like I’ve lost a friend I never got to meet.
